Women
Women almost worry about every little thing in their life cycle. I would say 90% of the women who are above 28 years old will somehow want to marry cause they feel time is running out. Once this feeling is established a woman is most likely to marry for wrong reasons. I always like joking with my friends that it's not the 28 years that marries but the personality. I have known so many female friends who have rushed into marriage because they are getting old but who says the old don't get married and live happy ever after look at Nelson Mandela I think you all know that he just got married even when he is over 80 years and the wife over 65 years. In sense what am trying to say is don't let fear make your decisions for you especially when thinking of marriage cause marriage is a no point of return zone. Just as they say you can never get out of LIFE alive so it is for marriage (till death do us part). Question - so what if I marry cause of my fear of growing old, I just want to have kids.Well everybody wants Kids/children, even God our Father longs for a father-children relationship and so he has made us to be his children. But one thing you should realize is you can not rush in to marriage so you will be in a child baring range, remember you might not even have children at all cause you have no power to decide when to have Children, God is the one who gave us this wonderful gift and so he is capable of giving you children even when you are 50, I mean look at Abraham and Sarah from the bible, They had a son when they were way above biological standards of child baring. So as long as you marry within the limits of Gods plan for your marriage you will have nothing to worry about your age and Kids. Whether you are a Christian or not this is the standard truth on marriage, every marriage has to be blessed by a Priest or Pastor/minister. Let me tell you what happens when you are so concerned with your age.1- You will always depend on your instincts and feeling in deciding who is Mr right for you.2- You will have no sense of direction as in any man who comes along and satisfies your calibre will eventually qualify to be the Mr right. 3- You will always be in a rushing mode against time and age and you will eventually lose your patience day by day until you eventually maximise your unlikely chances of finding your right partner. 4- Finally you will end up marring for the wrong reasons and still end up finding the right partner only this time it will be too late cause you are already married. Am sure no one wants to be in such a situation, we all long to be happy. Marriage should not be used as a refuge camp. If you have a low rate of self confidence don't expect them to go when you get married. Most marriages these days don't last because people always carry their burden into their marriage life. And if you are very much involved into sex activity don't think you will stop once you get married. Most people say well for me to stop this kind of activity I will have to get married. Trust me when you get married it will even be worse. It is always wise to sort all your problems out before taking a step into marriage. If you are a Christian you should relate marriage to being born again. The point at which a minister says you are now Mr and Mrs Lupyani is the same point by which the same Minister says you are now a new creation the old has past the new has come. So be it, even in marriage life. Wash away your old characters and be a new creation or couple. I always tell my Friends that MARRIAGE IS COLLEGE FROM WHICH NO ONE CAN EVER GRADUATE ALIVE. This is why it is so vital that one should marry for the right purpose as rightly purposed by God in view of marriage. Age is not a determining factor but it is something to take into account for eligibility's sake as in you don't expect a 12 year old to get married just because she says she is in Love. Let me take you further and lets talk about the reaction and action of women with Kids born out of marriage. Just click on whats new and we can take it from there. Remember what i have written is just a few that are likely to happen with women in such a category, am not saying every woman in such a category faces this, but trust me there are there not because i know but because i have had a few charts with them and i do have few friends who are in constant fear rushing and accepting any man because their time seems to be running out.

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